Having a caregiver should be for ease and not a problem. It is important to have empathetic and friendly relations with your caregiver. It is important to understand the caregiver relationship and its repercussions on the lives of each other. Find all our advice to facilitate this relationship and live your role of caregiver more serenely.
A relationship of a partner
Being a caregiver is not innate. The role of the caregiver is essential in the face of advancing age, illness, disability, loss of autonomy of a loved one. A new couple is then set up: wife-husband, child-parent, and a new relationship mode to build a caregiver relationship. For the caregiver, this new role is a source of anxiety about the situation of their loved one, and it can be a sign of discouragement or exhaustion. It is most often difficult to accept help from a loved one. It becomes a source of aggressiveness, anxiety, anger, demands, and frustration. In this context, the caregiver will project his feelings and his anguish onto the caregiver. Easier to get angry with loved ones, doctors, professionals than with illness or loss of autonomy. It all works together to create a new relationship that sometimes leads to conflict. How to cope?
Rights and Freedoms
As a caregiver, you must not feel guilty, and you have the right to maintain a caregiver relationship.
· Continue to do activities for you
· Continue to work
· Take care of yourself: this will allow you to take better care of the person being helped
· To be tired and express your difficulties
· Continue to have a personal life
· Be proud of yourself and feel useful
· Reject any attempt at manipulation on the part of the person being helped
· Cultivate mutual respect
· Seek help from others or professionals.
Ask For Help To Develop A Caregiver Relationship
It is important to know how to ask for help and respect your limits to avoid exhaustion.
· Respect your limits and not feel guilty
· It is necessary to define your commitment
· How long and how many times a week can you be present?
· What kind of help can you afford?
· Who will replace me during my vacation?
It is up to you to set your limits and to avoid any feeling of guilt. Do not feel the reluctance of the person being helped. The caregiver is often afraid that the person being helped will not accept the sharing of tasks between other members of the family or with professionals. If this is the case, it's up to you to say to the person being helped.
Call On Other Family Members Or Professionals
Do not hesitate to talk about it with the relatives of the person being helped to see how you can share the various tasks to maintain the caregiver relationship and the related costs. You can also call on the various services at home (housekeeper, carrying meals, etc.) according to the personalized assistance plan that will have been defined within the framework of the Apa at home request. The respite solutions, such as daycare, temporary stay in nursing homes, can also be considered to allow you to breathe or go on vacation.
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